I Made A Wish And It Came True

Having a child is much more than a wish, more than an illusion and even the always debatable ideal of female fulfillment. To have a new life in our arms is to put a life project on our horizon, it is to have the heart outside the body and enjoy every moment of that perfect creature.

Often in the scientific world and in psychological studies they address the issue of why a woman wants to be a mother. We could say without a doubt that such desire is something private, something intimate and sometimes inexplicable. Yet scientists, always eager to isolate variables, tell us that it is almost always for three reasons.

The first is to strengthen the bond with the couple by creating a common project, a life project. The second is to realize yourself as a woman. The third, and something more transcendental, find meaning in one’s existence by being part of the most beautiful project, that of being a mother or father.

We may agree with some of these dimensions, however, on what we can certainly agree that “there is something more” than all this. Because the desire to have a child is sometimes not shared by the other member of the couple. There are different approaches and situations.

There are even times when that baby arrives without being expected and it undoubtedly becomes the best thing that can happen to us. Having a child goes far beyond mere desire. We suggest you reflect on it.

I made a wish that was long in coming, but at last I have you by my side

There are long and patiently desired children. Dream creatures that are slow to arrive, mothers who cannot conceive, fathers who dream of being one and families who have seen all their attempts frustrated, until in the end … The miracle happens and the desire takes shape.

Whether individually or as a couple, there are people who want to have children and wait for the most appropriate moment. That moment in which the affective and the economic combine and propitiate that magical moment. However, just when they see the perfect moment they discover that it is not possible, that the tests are always negative and that conception does not arise. That is when there is no other option other than to seek help, than to resort to modern assisted reproductive techniques.

In turn, something that is not always talked about is the psychological and emotional “Ferris wheel” to which these mothers and their partners are subjected. Stress, illusions, hopes and frustrations sometimes create a fabric that makes the process even more difficult. They are very complex situations marked by the strong desire to be parents, and that in most cases ends in success.

The “imaginary child” that lives in us

This beautiful painting by Henry James Draper at the end of the 19th century represents that magical moment in which a nymph sees her wish to be a mother fulfilled. The author himself explained that he imagined the young girl strolling sadly on a beach until suddenly, on a rocky promontory, she found a large shell wrapped in seaweed.

Without thinking, pull on one of these algae and instantly, the shell opens, revealing a perfect, sweet, pink baby in a quiet sleep in that pearly sphere. The nymph then thanks the sea and takes the little one in her arms.

This same dream for the arrival of a child and motherhood is always accompanied by the mental practice of the “imaginary child. ” Far from seeing this emotional and psychological image as inappropriate, it can actually be immensely beneficial as long as, yes, the perspective of logic and realism is maintained.

• It is not a question, for example, of attributing to that dreamed child virtues of exquisite beauty and intelligence, of endowing him in our minds with characteristics such as obedience, school success or an always affectionate and docile personality.
• The ideal is to dream of oneself being happy in the company of that child. That little boy doesn’t have to be a lawyer, a pianist or a footballer. It will be what he wants. Let us shape in our mind a little one that tomorrow is capable of achieving what he proposes, imagine ourselves educating him, helping him, being his hand always close and his constant light in every time of his life.

To conclude, the desire to be a mother or to be a father undoubtedly responds to multiple reasons that cannot be objectified in a laboratory. It is simply the desire to complete our life, to give the world a happy, dignified and free creature to give wings to fly and roots to remember where it comes from and who will always love it.

Wishes are first dreamed of and later enjoyed when they come true. Enjoy your little treasure every day …